Nov
09

Can I Save My Marriage

The answer is YES, however  most couples in distress need the help of a competent marital therapist. Studies show that the majority (upwards of 80%) of couples that get divorced don’t go to counselling or get any outside assistance. Of the 20% that do get help, they wait 6 years before coming in. It’s understandable…
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Oct
21

Does marriage counselling work?

Q: How many marriage counsellors does it take to change a light bulb? A: Just one, but the light bulb has to really want to change. Marriage counselling, if done by a skilled and experienced counsellor is highly effective for the vast majority of couples. However, couples have to be ready to “roll up their…
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Oct
07

Can Your Marriage Survive An Affair?

An affair doesn’t have to mean the end of your marriage! Yes it can be one of the lowest, darkest moments of your entire life and dealing with the affair can be one of the most difficult challenges you and your spouse will ever face. As a marriage therapist for over 25 years, I’ve heard…
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Oct
06

We don’t communicate anymore. Can we get that back?

The number one complaint couples bring into my office is “we just can’t communicate anymore.” And my response….if you’re having trouble communicating – you’re having trouble handling the message. Underneath most communication problems lies a thorny e conversation that you haven’t had yet…and…that you NEED to have. Communication problems happen when people don’t trust each…
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Oct
06

My partner doesn’t think we have a problem. What can I do?

It’s very common for one partner to be unhappier in the relationship than the other but it’s another matter if  your  partner is unwilling to talk about it…or do anything about it. This usually reflects a pattern called “stonewalling,” which is refusing to talk about issues, the “silent treatment” and avoiding conflict. Studies show that 85%…
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