Dec
18

Conflict Free Christmas!

Season’s Greetings! It’s that time of the year and I’ve been thinking about last year’s topic of why we have so much conflict at Christmas. Well, a lot can change in a year and I’ve got a new idea. How about having a conflict-free Christmas? Even better, a conflict-free relationship? Some explanation is in order.…
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Aug
04

15 Things No One Tells You Before You Get Married

Here’s the interview I just did with Nicole Greenberg on weddingbells.ca   15 Things No One Tells You Before You Get Married

Dec
18

Why do we have so much relationship distress at Christmas time?

Reflections on the holidays… Some people absolutely love Christmas, it’s the most magical time of the year. If this is you, you may not want to read further. For others, Christmas can be a tough time and I’ve been reflecting on the reasons for this. It struck me that this is a time unlike any…
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Nov
08

Relationship Essential #17 – Coping (and thriving) during hard times: 5 Strategies for couples

We have evolved for survival, not happiness. Life is difficult, for everyone… As M. Scott Peck, author of “The Road Less Traveled”  stated, accepting that life is difficult makes it less difficult. A common myth in our culture is that human beings are naturally meant to be happy and if we’re not, something must be…
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Aug
19

117,000 Calgarians on cheating site, ashelymadison.com

ashleymadison.com – “Life is short. Have an affair.” Just talked with Michael Lumsden at QR 77 (http://www.newstalk770.com/) today re: the Ashley Madison website being hacked. Apparently 117,000 Calgarians are signed up it. Imagine that! A lot of people would be VERY embarrassed to have their personal information disclosed and be identified as a “cheater.” He…
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Jun
01

Essential # 15 – Your happiness depends on the quality of your relationship(s)…

What attachment style are you? It says a lot about the quality of your relationship…and your happiness in life! Happy couples have a secure attachment base…unhappy couples don’t. Or simply put, couples in counselling usually have attachment issues… Have you ever wondered why some couples just can’t seem to get along? Why do they have…
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Jan
21

Talk and Workshop-Unity Church – February 8, 2015

I’ll be giving a another talk and a workshop at the Unity Church on Sunday morning,  February 8. The workshop below will be offered in the afternoon. To win in love, you must lose the scorecard… “In relationships, what matters most is love. The rest is negotiable.” Keeping score in relationships doesn’t work. The only…
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Dec
02

Relationship Essential #14 – Holiday Tips

Seasons greetings everyone! This is the time of year that can put a lot of stress on relationships…your marriage, in-laws, family and friends, etc. Here are 5 tips that I hope will help you have a wonderful holiday this year: 1. Set realistic expectations. With your partner, discuss and assess your expectations for the holidays.…
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May
07

Essential #13: “Couples Aikido” – The art of disarming your partner’s aggression…

In my practice I always teach my clients basic communication techniques and strategies. Validating feelings, being open and direct,  active listening, taking responsibility for feelings without blaming your partner, etc. form the basics of good communication in all relationships. However, in the real world, with it’s inherent stresses and distractions, following good communication protocol is…
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Mar
26

Relationship Essential # 12 – “Coupleship” – The fundamental principle of good relationships…

There’s a fundamental principle, essential in all long term committed relationships. It’s the 3rd entity –  “coupleship,” a.k.a., the “team.” When decisions need to be made, if one partner wins and the other loses, the relationship loses. Many couples resist this fundamental principle. They understandably struggle with the practical realities of being on a team…
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