Oct
03

Relationship Essential # 16 – How to Affair Proof Your Marriage

By now you’ve no doubt heard about the website, ashleymadison.com, and how 37 million North Americans and some 107,000  Calgarian’s are registered on the site. Turns out that these astonishing numbers are grossly misleading. Apparently, many of the “registered users” and their profiles have been fabricated for marketing purposes by the company itself and of…
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Jan
21

Talk and Workshop-Unity Church – February 8, 2015

I’ll be giving a another talk and a workshop at the Unity Church on Sunday morning,  February 8. The workshop below will be offered in the afternoon. To win in love, you must lose the scorecard… “In relationships, what matters most is love. The rest is negotiable.” Keeping score in relationships doesn’t work. The only…
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Aug
22

The Three Most Common Relationship Offenses

Recently, I was thinking about my couples counselling practice and  pondering what I think are the three biggest relationship offenses that couples commit. I know there’s John Gottman’s famous “4 Horsemen” (patterns of criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling) but here are my top three. 1. Blaming:  As I’ve discussed previously, blame is the nuclear weapon…
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Aug
07

Love is a feeling…marriage is a contract…relationships take WORK!

I’ve talked before about how relationships often devolve from being love based to being needs-based contracts – the “scorecard.” I think it’s crucial that couples realize that “marriage” is a contract, a legal institution that historically has had little, if anything, to do with love. It’s only been about 200 years that men and women…
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May
07

Essential #13: “Couples Aikido” – The art of disarming your partner’s aggression…

In my practice I always teach my clients basic communication techniques and strategies. Validating feelings, being open and direct,  active listening, taking responsibility for feelings without blaming your partner, etc. form the basics of good communication in all relationships. However, in the real world, with it’s inherent stresses and distractions, following good communication protocol is…
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Jan
28

# 11 – Mindfulness: Sig Taylor Speaking at the Unity Church of Calgary this Sunday, Feb. 2, 2014; 10AM

I’ll be speaking again at the The Unity Church of Calgary this Sunday, February 2, 10AM on the topic of “presence and mindfulness” in relationships. Many couples could avoid a marriage counsellor or therapy if they practiced this one habit. My clients are often surprised when I remind them of the simple and profound importance…
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Dec
30

Sig Taylor of The Calgary Couples Clinic says…relax…reduce stress and anxiety before attempting to connect to your spouse!

Couples could avoid a marriage counsellor or therapy if they practice this one habit – reducing stress and anxiety before beginning important conversations. One of biggest mistakes that couples make is trying to communicate when one or both spouses are feeling anxious or worried about something. The fact is, when you are anxious, it’s very…
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Oct
12

The US Government is like an unhappy marriage…..can they get a divorce?

The U.S. government shut down is a perfect example of the self centered focus of our society and culture. It’s a “me first” perspective that permeates organizations and personal relationships that ultimately has a very negative impact on society as a whole.   It’s the opposite of love and cooperation, “win-win.”  It’s a “win-lose” scenario that…
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