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Stop Trying to Change Your Partner

How often do you wish that your partner were different? Do you ever wonder if you’ve married the “wrong” person? What subtle and not so subtle ways do you try to control your partner? What tactics do you use to get them to do what you want or stop doing what you don’t...

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Best investment for retirement? Marriage counselling

Saving your marriage is the best financial investment you'll ever make, especially for retirement. It's better than stocks, bonds, mutual funds, you name it, nothing comes close to avoiding the financial and emotional damage that comes with divorce. Check out the...

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Phone counselling now available

Phone counselling alternative to in-office therapy Advantages: Unlike other forms of counseling, telephone counseling is potentially free of certain constraining factors that affect traditional therapy, including geography, time duration, and cost, making this form of...

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Conflict Free Christmas!

Season's Greetings! It's that time of the year and I've been thinking about last year's topic of why we have so much conflict at Christmas. Well, a lot can change in a year and I've got a new idea. How about having a conflict-free Christmas? Even better, a...

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Zoomer Magazine – Midlife Crisis – August, 2015

Zoomer Magazine – Midlife Crisis – August, 2015 November 9, 2015 By Sig Taylor (Edit) Zoomer Magazine – August, 2015 “Crisis, What Crisis?” by Lisa Bendall You think your mate is having a mid-life crisis. Out of the blue, they announce they’re getting tattoos. Or...

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Can I Save My Marriage

The answer is YES, however  most couples in distress need the help of a competent marital therapist. Studies show that the majority (upwards of 80%) of couples that get divorced don’t go to counselling or get any outside assistance. Of the 20% that do get help, they...

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Does Marriage Counselling Work?

Q: How many marriage counsellors does it take to change a light bulb? A: Just one, but the light bulb has to really want to change. Marriage counselling, if done by a skilled and experienced counsellor is highly effective for the vast majority of couples. However,...

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Can Your Marriage Survive An Affair?

An affair doesn’t have to mean the end of your marriage! Yes it can be one of the lowest, darkest moments of your entire life and dealing with the affair can be one of the most difficult challenges you and your spouse will ever face. As a marriage therapist for over...

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We don’t communicate anymore. Can we get that back?

The number one complaint couples bring into my office is “we just can’t communicate anymore.” And my response….if you’re having trouble communicating – you’re having trouble handling the message. Underneath most communication problems lies a thorny e conversation that...

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117,000 Calgarians on cheating site, ashelymadison.com

ashleymadison.com – “Life is short. Have an affair.” Just talked with Michael Lumsden at QR 77 (http://www.newstalk770.com/) today re: the Ashley Madison website being hacked. Apparently 117,000 Calgarians are signed up it. Imagine that! A lot of people would be VERY...

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Talk and Workshop-Unity Church – February 8, 2015

I’ll be giving a another talk and a workshop at the Unity Church on Sunday morning,  February 8. The workshop below will be offered in the afternoon. To win in love, you must lose the scorecard… “In relationships, what matters most is love. The rest is negotiable.”...

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Relationship Essential #14 – Holiday Tips

Seasons greetings everyone! This is the time of year that can put a lot of stress on relationships…your marriage, in-laws, family and friends, etc. Here are 5 tips that I hope will help you have a wonderful holiday this year: 1. Set realistic expectations. With your...

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The “War on Drugs”

Here’s a fantastic video – “The War on Drugs” that dramatically summarizes the insanity of drug policy over the last 20 years and how it’s caused so much harm to so many people. It doesn’t promote drugs, rather, it calls for shift from a crime and punishment approach...

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The Three Most Common Relationship Offenses

Recently, I was thinking about my couples counselling practice and  pondering what I think are the three biggest relationship offenses that couples commit. I know there’s John Gottman’s famous “4 Horsemen” (patterns of criticism, contempt, defensiveness and...

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Communication 101

Communication is really quite simple, although many people struggle with it, especially couples. Most couples experiencing relationship problems will tell you “we have communication issues.” What that really means is they don’t know how to deal with their own feelings...

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The Sex Starved Marriage

Here’s a great TED talk by Michelle Weiner-Davis about the importance of keeping sex alive in marriage. It’s healing, bonding and ABSOLUTELY ESSENTIAL if you are to have a happy marriage. It’s fits perfectly with my last blog on sex and monogamy. Click here for the...

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Marriage, Monogamy & Sex – The need to be creative…

Most couples I see in my practice have sexual/intimacy problems. The presenting issue may be communication, children, money, etc. but it’s usually not long before sexual problems surface. Sexual issues in marriage are often the “dead elephant (“moose,” for Canadians)...

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What Couples Really Fight About

Here’s a great article by John and Julie Gottman, the researchers from the famous “Love Lab” in Seattle. Bottom line is that most fights are about NOTHING! Here’s great information for couples on processing fights, conflict and forgiveness – What Couples Fight...

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Best financial advice for retirement…

“Stay married to the same person. I did not do this and it altered my financial position irrevocably. Divorce, in the long run, is the most expensive decision you’ll ever make. So is selling your house and dividing the assets after the split. Or paying alimony. Or...

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Oct 27th, 2013 – Sig talks at the Unity Church

Intimate Relationships:  “A powerful learning lab for spiritual growth” I  believe our purpose here is to evolve our consciousness, that is, to become more loving beings.  In my opinion there’s no better way to do this than in relationships, especially primary,...

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#10 Vulnerability is the name of the game!

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is...

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Event For Men: What’s holding you back?

There will be a large gathering of men coming with common Synergies, Wisdom, Open Hearts, Barriers, and Challenges, So That “Men Become better Men” for their Families & Community for Generations to come Please forward this to the men in your life and bring a friend...

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#9 Part 2 – The Primal Nature of Men and Woman

In last month’s Relationship Essential, I discussed the fundamental problem in long-term relationships – the “score card.” As the initial love of the new relationship begins to fade, a needs-based, contractual way of relating inevitably unfolds. Couples stop making...

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#9 The Score Card

Part 1: “The Score Card”  “Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye.” – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.  “Where there is love there is life.” –  Mahatma Gandhi  This month’s Relationship Essential addresses the fundamental dynamic in all relationships. It’s the...

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#8 – The 5 Essentials for a Happy Relationship

ALL COUPLES ARE INCOMPATIBLE! After the initial infatuation/romance stage wears off (weeks up to 4 years) couples enviably disagree in five key areas: – Money – Sex – Kids – Time – In-laws In my sessions with couples we discuss the 5 essential compatibilities for...

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#7 – The Languages of Love

Do you know what makes your partner feel most loved? The Emotional/Love Bank Account In any relationship, even casual and business ones, goodwill is a key ingredient to it’s success.  Goodwill is the extent to which you trust and feel positive about the other person. ...

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Steps to Getting Over an Affair

When an affair or betrayal happens in an relationship most people respond in a way that’s similar to a trauma. It’s a jolt our whole system at a core level. We lose faith in reality, we lose trust, we question our senses, and our whole world can seem to fall apart....

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#6 – Sex Problems & Addiction

Over the years in my practice, I’ve been  noticing that more and more couples are experiencing sexual  problems. In fact, I’ve found that even when couples  improve their communication and connection, many of them  still experience sexual dysfunction. I’ve come to ...

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The Calgary Public Library presents Sig Taylor

Tuesday October 18th, 2011, the Calgary Public Library (Main) branch will be hosting a presentation on “The Science of Intimate Relationships” Calgary marriage & family therapist Sig Taylor will be talking about “the relationship habits and emotional skills of...

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Annoying Habits – Article in Toronto/Calgary Sun

Article from the Toronto Sun: Thursday, September 22, 2011 Can annoying habits be overcome in a relationship? Rosemary CounterAt Marissa’s house, it’s the receipts.“My husband likes to keep the receipts for everything, just in case,” she explains. If that doesn’t...

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#4: Blame: “The Kiss of Death”

Although this is “# 4” in my series of Relationship Essentials, it really should be NUMBER 1. Studies show that blaming your partner is by far the most damaging, toxic thing that couples do. It’s also one of the major reasons that marriage/couples counselling is...

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#3: Remember Why You’re Married

There’s a lot of reasons to get married and stay married. The fact is happily married people are healthier, live longer (on average 4 years), get sick 35% less, make more  money and their children do significantly better in life. Author, Julia Espey,  offers some...

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#2: Stay Connected – The Couples Daily Check-In

Don’t wait for Valentines Day to get connected! Stay connected daily. Last month I talked about friendship being the most important key to couples relationship success and how checking in with each other every day is a vital part of nurturing your couple bond. Studies...

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#1: Take Back Your Marriage

Greetings for 2011 and welcome to my Relationship Success Essentials newsletter! Let’s get our year and our relationship off to a great start by discussing the most important relationship success factor first. In my seminars, when I ask the audience, “why do you think...

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