by Sig Taylor | Nov 15, 2020 | Sig Recommends
1. Practice Relational Mindfulness Learn how to interrupt knee-jerk reactive habits. You’re having a nice day and your partner disagrees or disapproves of something you say. In an instant you’re triggered and your nice day goes sideways. It’s these “small moments”...
by Sig Taylor | Jul 19, 2020 | Sig Recommends
We marry our baggage. We are naturally attracted to partners that trigger us into the 5 losing strategies. When this happens we become a different person, a younger more immature part of ourselves. Our brain gets hijacked. We act like immature children – lashing out...
by Sig Taylor | Mar 29, 2020 | Sig Recommends
1. Get control of your emotions – practice relational mindfulness In times of stress, our emotional systems go into “overdrive.” Coping mechanisms (healthy or otherwise) are amplified by stress and fear. If you were already disconnected before the crisis, it could get...
by Sig Taylor | Mar 22, 2020 | Sig Recommends
Whoosh… (The “knee-jerk” automatic response) Stop. Breathe. Think. (The mindful way to deal with the trigger) TIME OUTS The best defense against verbal abuse is a formal time-out. When either partner calls a time-out – by saying the words, “time-out,” by...
by Sig Taylor | Mar 20, 2020 | Sig Recommends
Couples Check-In: How to Fill Your “Love Tank” It works best if you do it person but it also works by email, text or phone. Remember to do it every week and watch what happens! 1. Appreciations One recent thing you did or said recently that I appreciated…...
by Sig Taylor | Mar 17, 2020 | Sig Recommends
Over the past few weeks, it’s become clear the world is facing an unprecedented challenge. Like you, I want to do what I can to keep our communities and families healthy and safe. My goal is to continue to provide a secure and effective counselling experience for my...