by Sig Taylor | Oct 23, 2023 | Sig Recommends, Uncategorized
The Six Kinds of Testing and Manipulation How kids push our buttons! Which ones do your kids do? 1. Badgering (“Why can’t I?, “But how come?,” “Why now?,”) 2. Intimidation (yelling, screaming, banging doors, throwing things) 3....
by Sig Taylor | Oct 2, 2023 | Sig Recommends, Uncategorized
We’re fortunate to live in a civilized country where most of the time most of us regulate our emotions relatively well. In public. The main reason we do this is because of the consequences of not doing it. You give someone the “finger” in your car...
by Sig Taylor | Nov 15, 2020 | Sig Recommends
1. Practice Relational Mindfulness Learn how to interrupt knee-jerk reactive habits. You’re having a nice day and your partner disagrees or disapproves of something you say. In an instant you’re triggered and your nice day goes sideways. It’s these “small moments”...
by Sig Taylor | Jul 19, 2020 | Sig Recommends
We marry our baggage. We are naturally attracted to partners that trigger us into the 5 losing strategies. When this happens we become a different person, a younger more immature part of ourselves. Our brain gets hijacked. We act like immature children – lashing out...
by Sig Taylor | Mar 29, 2020 | Sig Recommends
1. Get control of your emotions – practice relational mindfulness In times of stress, our emotional systems go into “overdrive.” Coping mechanisms (healthy or otherwise) are amplified by stress and fear. If you were already disconnected before the crisis, it could get...
by Sig Taylor | Mar 22, 2020 | Sig Recommends
Whoosh… (The “knee-jerk” automatic response) Stop. Breathe. Think. (The mindful way to deal with the trigger) TIME OUTS The best defense against verbal abuse is a formal time-out. When either partner calls a time-out – by saying the words, “time-out,” by...
