Avoiding Unnecessary Conflict

One of the biggest mistakes couples make is having spontaneous, "in-the-moment” discussions about issues. Something our partner says or does triggers us and we feel instantly annoyed. Recently my wife and I were driving to a dinner party and when I glanced at the fuel...

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Dealing With Difficult Emotions

I've been talking a lot lately about emotional reactivity, "triggering," and how it's the bane of intimate communication. It's the main reason couples get into the "silence or violence" pattern. Don't talk versus talk and get into conflict. Not much of a choice. All...

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The “Happy Pill” (hint: it’s not Prozac)

"Suppose you read about a pill that you could take once a day to reduce anxiety and increase your contentment. Would you take it? Suppose further that the pill has a great variety of side effects, all of them good: increased self-esteem, empathy, and trust; it even...

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Stop Trying to Change Your Partner

How often do you wish that your partner were different? Do you ever wonder if you’ve married the “wrong” person? What subtle and not so subtle ways do you try to control your partner? What tactics do you use to get them to do what you want or stop doing what you don’t...

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Best investment for retirement? Marriage counselling

Saving your marriage is the best financial investment you'll ever make, especially for retirement. It's better than stocks, bonds, mutual funds, you name it, nothing comes close to avoiding the financial and emotional damage that comes with divorce. Check out the...

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