One of the biggest mistakes couples make is having spontaneous, "in-the-moment” discussions about issues. Something our partner says or does triggers us and we feel instantly annoyed. Recently my wife and I were driving to a dinner party and when I glanced at the fuel...

I've been talking a lot lately about emotional reactivity, "triggering," and how it's the bane of intimate communication. It's the main reason couples get into the "silence or violence" pattern. Don't talk versus talk and get into conflict. Not much of a choice. All...

I'll be giving a talk this Sunday, February 24 at Unity of Calgary on Relational Mindfulness. Click here for details. Summary: Are you tired of conflict? Endless go-nowhere arguments? “Walking on eggshells?” Would you like to be more authentic and loving? After...

“Never let your kids do anything that makes you dislike them.” - Jordan Peterson, "12 Rules for Life" Bad parenting and poor child management is damaging marriages. We live in a child-centric culture. When I ask couples how much "couple time' do get away from the kids...

I recently talked with Best Health magazine writer, Anna Sharratt, about how couples can support each other in pursuing their passions and interests. In this case it was about how one partner wanted to run a marathon and how that would affect their and family and...

How often do you wish that your partner were different? Do you ever wonder if you’ve married the “wrong” person? What subtle and not so subtle ways do you try to control your partner? What tactics do you use to get them to do what you want or stop doing what you don’t...

Saving your marriage is the best financial investment you'll ever make, especially for retirement. It's better than stocks, bonds, mutual funds, you name it, nothing comes close to avoiding the financial and emotional damage that comes with divorce. Check out the...